Powerful Men lose when Female Emotions Fly

By Trey Battle/Tell Us Detroit

DETROIT (Tell Us Det) - As wrong as it might be, having an affair, as a single person or as a married person has become a part of our modern culture. As a result, placing regulations on intimate relationships is a growing problem for Human Resource departments across America.

The Bill Clinton/Monica Lewinsky saga is often referenced when this kind of situation takes place, but since that time we have seen several publicized cases occur including former Presidential Candidate John Edwards, former Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger, NBA Star Kobe Bryant, Golf Phenom Tiger Woods, former Mayor of Detroit Kwame Kilpatrick and now two former Chief’s of Detroit Police, both Warren Evans and Ralph Godbee. In most if not all of these cases, the women have received everything from financial compensation, book deals, in the case of Kobe Bryant, a 5-carat diamond ring, and all have landed on their feet with jobs or new starts.

Yes, sex sells. It sells people on the concept that anyone who happens to find romance on the job is incapable of providing management and oversight in business dealings or not fit for teaching and therefore must be ushered to the town square and castrated.

I say castrated because men are often the victims when women get emotional about a relationship gone bad. The necessity to provide for the child aside, you need only listen to the droves of cases that fill child support courtrooms, everyday, across this country. In many, you’ll find emotions, anger and bitterness.

The idea that there is an old boy’s network seems to only strengthen when these scenario’s are presented. In the case of two consenting adults, with one having a responsible and often celebrated career, participating in a mutually beneficial relationship somehow needing to be regulated as a result of an emotional outburst by the woman, is a trend that has legal types scratching their heads.

On one hand we encourage men and women to network and build solid relationships at work. Inherit in that effort is the possibility for getting close and ultimately “catching feelings”. When things don’t work out, it is rarely men who cry ‘foul’. In the end however, men are told to keep it in their pants, even if they are single, regardless of how strong the connection might be. When they don’t, they are faced with stiff penalties, a loss of their career along with public embarrassment.
Knowing that we must find a solution to this ongoing dilemma, it would be interesting to see a comparison on what I suspect is a overwhelming number of successful relationships that happen on the job, where people become couples, get married and live happily ever after, despite differences that they might experience.